On the whole, it's not you

I get really, really fed up with the idea that your life is controlled by what kind of 'vibes' you send out.
You know the kind of thing, the mode of thought that says that positive thinking will change everything and what you send out into the world comes back to you.
Because I have a friend who buys into that bull wholeheartedly and you know what it does for her?
She feels bad. And she feels guilty about feeling bad. And bad about feeling guilty.
Because if your vibes control your life?
Every bad feeling you have is why bad things happen.

I keep saying that suffering is, life just happens, events happen and it has nothing much to do with us really a lot of the time.

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Life happens. Stuff happens. Volcanos and hurricanes and all the random and time inflicted ills of mortal flesh. They happen no matter what expression you've got on. You cannot invite them into your life any more than you can think real hard to deflect them.

But you are not powerless. Because with wisdom and compassion, kindness and cleverness, together humans get on with things and make things better.

I'd really like it if more people understood that more better.