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I have been feeling disconnected and like it's difficult to find community
even more so now than... some halcyon golden age when I was younger, that was probably really stressful at the time but at least involved occasional conversation.

I think it's not just me.

I been seeing comments around so these are not original thoughts, but:

There isn't one unifying experience of culture any more. Any culture.

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and my shopping arrived early and unusual cleaner is here and that all interrupted my chain of thought

but
basically

There is so much more culture now, the whole of history all around the world talking to seven billion people, and all seven billion talking back
that it's increasingly difficult
I find
to have an experience in common

in the way fandom used to be built on.

So I do not know how to find the places we connect
or build on them.

Needs worked on.

Nobog has a new venue for December
so I played board games in a room decorated with painted stag heads with blooming antlers
and fancy portrait style pictures where the heads were stags.

Stylish and vaguely pagan.

Unfortunately I am not a fan of the stairs to get there. They aren't the worst in Norwich but the hand rail runs out before the top of the stairs, which is ungood and leaves you stranded if you actually need the thing, and the handrail is also not steady. I don't know what the going downstairs stairs are like but the going upstairs ones I tried today were Not Cool.

I don't know if they're enough to not use the place. It means it would not be my choice of venue, but so few places would be, and I am not the one choosing.

I had to leave at 9pm again and it is slightly frustrating.

But I played Pandemic so that bit was fun.
We didn't win but games are fun anyway.

... okay I am not in a cheerful up mood now, but, I achieved the thing and it was fine.

Next time the challenge is to join a game someone else brought. One that only lasts until 9pm, which I don't know if I haven't played it. But still. More social, more variety.

... or bring different games.

*sigh*

NSFG worked again.
I was slightly late cause I stopped to buy some dvds.
but talking and game was achieved.

I think it was this one:
https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/70502/doctor-who-time-wars-family-board-game
flip board game. you roll a double, you flip the flip section, it makes it so you can't cross the yellow lines, and then you flip it the other way just when you think you're getting somewhere.
It was the most frustraging... I meant frustrating but honestly if game got longer rage too.
You just spent most of the game stuck in the little yellow squares waiting for the board to flip again. I flipped it at least twice to help my opponents purely because it's *really boring* when no one can get anywhere.

Also you have to collect Enemy cards to win, which is ... not a coherent story.

And you can battle other players for their cards. Which is another way the game just gets stuck going back and forth and back and forth for aaaaaages.

It says it's a family game and I just imagine a family playing this and getting
so
wound
up.

But the trivia cards were pretty okay. All about 11 and Amy and Rory, and there was one card we disagreed with, but pretty okay.

So at the end I flipped the board to let someone win because we had ten minutes left and I didn't care who won as long as we could stop playing
but
it was a nice evening
even if I'm never using that flip board again.

now I sleeps.

science fiction group worked
I had quite a few things to mention, so plenty talking.
I still have not watched what they are watching even when it's not new. they have the channels for new DC TV episodes so I'm,like a year behind. But I could get those channels too if i figured out my tv and boxes and stuff so I should think about doing that.
but will have many things to watch soon anyways.

the burger was too solid and not great today.
Carcassone is a fun game. I was last but it was still fun.
Next time we need to try and get the tiles more square though, lots of balancing things at wonky edges at the end there.

I am super tired now.
still, fun.

Did social SF evening again at the Ribs of Beef.
I had read two books and listened an audio since last time, so had small conversation.
They had watched a bunch of The Magicians but I have not lately.

Vegan burger worked again, just about. I need to wait longer for first bite.

We played a card game called Aquarius which is all matching colors, but it has cards to swap your goal or trade hands or move cards around, so it can change on an instant.
I won twice and then we had a draw. So that was fun.
I borrowed the game to see if my brother likes it. Must remember to give it back next time.

was fun evening.

Science fiction group was fun.
Talked successfully for a bunch of minutes, ate a food, and played Munchkin.
We ran out of time but that meant we ended on a draw and the last monster was a pinata so everyone drew a treasure. Very friendly.
... right before that was Unfriendly of flying curses, cause someone got cursed with the deagon that makes you talk until it's your turn again and had to talk continuously until all the way around the table. So they made monsters bigger to get back at curser. But that just made it take longer. So they talked on and on and on :-)
I like how Munchkin is cooperate and compete and keeps being all alliance then backstab. Is fun.

For next time I must remember to read things that are not fanfic and watch things that are science fiction and listen more than one story.

There was no dancing tonight so we went to City Centre Games night, which has moved venues and nights.
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I like that I went and could mention why I don't go any more (schedule clashes).

But I do need a new alternative for second wednesdays because it is not moving back.

Science fiction night achieved
vegan burger had vegan cheese, was plenty tasty
talked all the things I seen since last meeting and listened what he had seen
played more of the Choose Your Own Adventure game.

Very successful evening.

The food was different this week but still okay.
Played another chapter of the Choose Your Own Adventure game, and did successful talking, even though I have not watched or read much relevant.

Before next meeting there will be a schedule with topics, and possibly posters, so that will be nice. New people would mean new conversation.

But today's conversation was nice.

First one I got to this year, so there was much talking and catching each other up on what we watched over the holidays.
There was something like a history of Doctor Who in 100 objects? And another 'fact' book about DW? I should look them up, those were good.
I took pictures of what I've been reading and watching as reminders and told about which bits were interesting. I said a bit about River Song but he didn't ask follow up questions so I don't know if he didn't want spoilers or wasn't as interested. And we chatted time travel stuff from other shows too. Many topics, lots of words.

The Ribs have started serving food so I got a Vegan Burger, which iirc is made of beetroot? It was plenty edible but I didn't eat the bun because seeds but they said they can change bits of it for next time if I ask. So I have a Plan and a thing to eat now. And the chips were nice.

Also we played the first chapter of a game I got that is tricky to play as a collaborate game because someone has to want to do the reading things out and get invested in the story and argue about choices and stuff. But it's more fun today than last time I tried it, so with an enthusiastic group that could still work.

There were more people in the basement. If the food gets popular we might have to change venue. That would be less good, I've got the hang of the Ribs. Still, if we do look for a new place, I can suggest prioritising accessability. Stairs are sub optimal.

I wore my new boots, which I think work better with the laces the way I had them today, and my new coat, which is as advertised both warm and waterproof, as tested on the way back to the car today.

Pretty good day.

Science fiction group
and talking Doctor Who
plus I brought xmas cake.

NSFG is basically the two of us plus my driver, but it is still conversation, so.
... maybe I can make advertising for the next group?
... which will be third week of January now, because December interrupts all routines.

still, nice conversation today

I neither won nor lost, because we walked away from an in progress game after two hours, but Catan is fun.

NSFG topic tonight was DC multiverse, and I talked about that pretty successfully
and I also brought the Pathfinder rulebook to show someone and talked some about that
but it was Not The Usual Driver so the person who had expressed an interest was not there

also it rarely crosses my mind how complex it all is from a standing start
until I try to explain it to new people
and realise I do not in fact know the rules, just bits.

pretty good talking.
last meeting of the year next time, with topic Doctor Who

Topic tonight was Frankenstein and I had read 60% of it and also seen movies and episodes and suchlike, so we stayed on topic pretty good.

Also I brought books for my driver to read, so they could be less bored if they had nothing to say, and they said that worked. Is good.

Topic for next meeting is DC multiverse multi media so I have three weeks to watch three seasons of DCTV, which seems achievable.

Current Mood: cheerful

I did not have a great week this week, with the anxiety and non sleeping, but I have a Routine, so I set out to do Games Night anyway.

And it was a great success :-D
... we did not win the cooperate game and I realised too late my strategy was exactly backwards because of the order we went around the board, which is annoying, but tends to happen because the final boss is one of a number of different cards and you have to figure out the one that comes up when it comes up.
But I had a good evening :-D

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Wednesday achieved :-)

We went to NSFG at the Ribs
and I talked all evening :-) Big success :-)

but very difficult. much stutter. there was football on and everywhere was busy, and we spent half the evening outside in the chilly because I was stuttering bad and not fluent participate and it was just Too Loud even for people not me. And it was only like half a dozen other people I think. difficult.

Also the bench on the bit over the river is Not Comfy and my back did several interesting clicky things.

But conversation happened, so, win.

I also brought a book I thought maybe my driver would like but that did not work out. Too much loud for rulebooks.

on the way there I picked up some ribena from morrisons because I have developed magic ability to drink whatever I buy. shall get more tomorrow, stock cupboard, attempt to get ahead.

I started the evening with a blergh mood trying to get me to not go anywhere, and now I am quite cheerful, so going worked pretty well.

we still need to find more people though, a group is usually more than two.

but we had enough talking for this week, and next time has a topic.

good stuff.

Games night tonight, on purpose. Played munchkin twice, same guy won twice.
Also talked a bit about what I've been reading and listened what he has been watching etc.

Pretty okay day.

Another successful expedition to NSFG at the Ribs of Beef, Norwich, first and third Wednesdays from 8pm.

We did a list of topics for future weeks, so they can go on a poster and invite more new people.
... because the three of us kind of often end up playing Munchkin due to only having watched so much F&SF in the previous two weeks.

I am not sure I remember correctly but shall write down something like we decided:

Next meeting is a games night, where I shall bring Munchkin and possibly another game, because you never know if you'll get more than six people.

First meet in October is open topic, talk about anything. Second is Frankenstein for Halloween. I shall have to either read it or collect episodes of things based on it or something.

November shall be DC and DW, with Arrowverse etc in the first meeting and Doctor Who in the second.

And then it's December, when the pub basement is busy of other things and we have no meetings for a month.

... December is very boring.

Tonight was not boring, and I talked successfully the whole evening. 2.5 hours of on topic discussion! ... mostly about Torchwood audios and Agents of SHIELD, because those things I have listened and watched. But I rationed how long I spent complaining about the bits I don't like, and I remembered to mention bits I did like, so that's okay. Also talked the three comics and two books I've read since last time. So that's a lot of talking.

Wrote down a name for a TV show I might like to start watching. Did listening also. ... should listen more, maybe...

So, pretty good evening.

Today was Birthday Party
because my brother is in this town on Sunday and it is closest to the usual routine.

We had cake! The nice one that is Free From everything and I ordered at Sainsburys :-)
... my brother finished his piece in seconds but was quite content with that portion, I was slooooow and was like wow that's a lot of cake, and mum had seconds, and liked it. Between us we ate nearly 2/3 of the cake. That is a lot of cake.

Then we watched Justice League. ( Read more... ) I liked Barry babbling and being bad at people, that is Relatable, but I didn't get Feels about this movie in general. And keep getting stuck on how I would do the 'verse different.

See this is why I watch the MCU much more easily, I don't compare it to decades of older comics in my head or how things were when I was a teenager.

But! It was a pleasant afternoon's viewing, more or less. And I like Aquaman because having seen Momoa in Atlantis he feels like he's one of us, or ours? And now he's all up there doing great? And I like the way the casting works with Aquaman as a story, ethnicity matters the good way, that bit is great.

... I guess I like the characters without liking the movie they were in? That's... that's now what they were aiming for. Oh well.

We also watched some vids because my TV YouTube shows good stuff now, except I'd been watching a lot of Rogues vids from the Flash TV show and they don't watch the TV shows so I had to go find things we'd all understand. So I watched Dream https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oJlPnPYlg8A and Starships https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bTGdGKEEiYE and The Greatest https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yIHZd0-sj_Q and also one of the We Will Rock You MCU vids https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PA4x8woMFSs .

My TV doesn't know many vids that are multifandom yet, it's pretty stuck on MCU and The Flash with a bit of Legends of Tomorrow, which is cool but I need to learn how to teach it stuff.

... I might have to get a YouTube account to teach it stuff.

There's a button in the settings so I can tell my computer about my TV, so then I could link a lot more stuff a lot more easily.

I don't know though, I kind of hate how YouTube knows all about us, you know?

But it helps it make cool suggestions?

So.

Anyway, then we had done the usual Sunday visit ritual and it was time to go home, so I'm on the internet telling y'all about it.

Mum did bring presents too, I have a bag with a unicorn on, I must find a purpose for it and use it sometimes. There are unicorn socks too. I don't know why mum thinks we are unicorns now but it's cool. A bit pink, but cool.

So that was pretty good birthday party.

I took two games because I had not watched or read anything this past two weeks and had no talk in my head. Which is always awkward. I was willing to listen but he has been watching Teen Wolf and I have not. So. We played.

Rising Tide takes slightly longer than we spend at the pub, at least with all the reading the rules and fiddling about setting up, and it takes way more concentrate than we had available by the end of the night. So that was not a good choice on my part. But we played. And we lost. And that's a more interesting evening than if I had not gone.

Now I will have the bit of the evening where I worry that someone who meets me twice a month secretly does not want to :eyeroll:

But I ordered drinks correctly and we got home despite roadworks eventually so we did pretty okay.

And we double checked next week times so that's sorted too.

Nice evening.

Went to Games Night.
Played two (2) games because Munchkin finished quickly. I must shuffle really well before trying it again. Then played Pandemic but with their game set.
I am not sure many people had fun with Munchkin, one guy got a spectacular set of treasures and just... wiped the floor with everything, while I got a bunch of Go Up A Levels and some low level things to kill, but the rest of the players pretty much stayed on level one for... the game. Almost. So.
But we won at Pandemic, which is always fun.

We stayed plenty later than usual, past nine.
Because of a driver scheduling issue.
It turned into an Adventure on the way back because the A47 is closed at night at the moment, and google does not know that.

But I am home and aside from a very jangly brain I am alright, so.

Games Night achieved.

Actual plural people at the SF Group today! And we were discussing LGBT characters in SF, because it was Pride at the weekend.

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Pretty neat evening.

Now I shall spend some hours sitting and trying to unwind from all the Humans and Talking
... fun has such a long wrapper of not fun, is exhausting.

But talking is pretty good.

Went to science fiction group
driver was changed without telling me, but they had their badge and all so that was sort of okay
but they should have told first.

got a subway food on the way there because I got stuck today and ended up sleeping through almost all of it. subway food is acceptable though.

talked about science fiction and showed my new munchkin cards and played munchkin
... am working on having more SF to talk about. could be F&SF. certainly includes superheroes
but we have been talking twice a month for many years so there's only so many new things in two weeks

munchkin game was good though
and also I won
aaaand might have shown off by making the monster bigger before I killed it.

... it started out a small thing, then got Illusioned into being a Plutonium Dragon, but I was at 27 by then and had some cards put by for eventualities, so I gave it a +10 and me a +10 just for style...

that was fun though.

I hope the others are also having fun.

It would be nice to get more people in for fresh conversation, but this is okay too.

maybe if we advertise the next one and come up with some themes again...

I went to the Ribs and talked to the one other person in the group
mentioned all the MCU and Torchwood stuff I seen and listened lately
and then we played Munchkin with my new cards mixed in.

... with only three players we played two games without getting anywhere near to using up the cards
but
we also used plenty of the new cards, and had fun with the Dragons rules.

The bar was very quiet and I successfully ordered 'J2o the apple one that is purple' as well as my appletise so yaay me.

The pub has scaffolding up and bits of it closed because it's fixing something, but our bit was just nice and quiet. ... not nice for their business, nice for us.

Next meeting is in two weeks and I can make up themes for the year if I can think of them
so that's nice.

Also
discovered my current Wednesday employee has been alive less years than I have lived in this flat
so
that
is a thing.

Wednesday employee will be Thursday employee this week because Thursday guy's car is busted.
Wednesday lady's car has been busted twice and the heater is stuck on and makes a smell and I'm very dubious about the whole thing.
but it got me there and back again, so.

was pretty good evening.

Me and mum did an expedition to a Wetherspoons pub.
Their lemonade is inferior and their breakfast is not best and we did not stay to play a board game
but it was a successfully achieved expedition.

Also my computer is in the shop waiting to be set up as mine
so that bit was achieved too.

winning.

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Entries tagged with social

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Norwich Board Gamers

Successful social

NSFG again

Norwich Science Fiction Group

NSFG

City Centre Games Night

Ribs of Beef

Pub night achieved

Science fiction group at the Ribs of Beef

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Board game night successful

Conversation achieved

Successful pub

City Centre Games Night

Science fiction group, with football

NSFG

Norwich Science Fiction Group

Birthday Party

science fiction group

Won pandemic, played munchkin, had an Adventure

Science fiction group