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beccaelizabethToday: Watched Enterprise. Discovered I've been watching the first season. Wondered why nobody investigated the possibility of enemy action before some time traveller told them to. Surely it's standard? Either it's accidental or intentional, and if intentional it's either the Enterprise or some enemy, and if they're only investigating accident... that's weird. But convenient to the plot.
Then watched a documentary on BBC Three about autism. 3 autistic blokes. 15, 23, and... I don't remember, early 20s also. There was one autistic girl turned up as one bloke's date. And it was just all cringing awkwardness. Everyone looked a bit bad, the mothers, the guys, the council worker who tried to get someone a job. Get an autistic bloke into social care work? Yes, because making cups of tea in other people's houses is just what a guy with a fix on history wants to be doing! And, okay, it's not like there's the jobs to go around, hence lots of scary economy words, so I'm not really criticising, it's just I get those letters too, and there's this undertone of 'maybe they can all look after each other!' that gets on my nerves.
Also, I so wanted to send the guys advice. They did not seem aware of the way things have process and stages. You want to date someone? Okay, first you find a someone. Then you see if they want to go do some thing you are both interested in. This is in case you're not interested in each other, then you've still got something interesting. Also, if you can't find a thing you're both interested in, it's not going to work. After that you go do something else and something else and something else, and swap stories, and find out what priorities and values you share. And progress from there. What an autistic bloke does? Decides he wants to find someone to spend the rest of his life with. On first email contact, asks her if she wants to share his life, and on first face to face contact, asks her to be his friend forever. Yes, it's the goal, but it totally lacks process, and is kinda creepy scary because clearly they are in one story and whatever girl arrives to fit is not their main focus and if the girl has another story... well.
Job hunting has similar problems. Process. Stages. But I actually know even less about this than about dating. Fanfic rarely involves job hunting. I do know that turning up somewhere and begging for a job doesn't tend to work. For some reason people are most likely to be offered jobs if they give the impression they don't need them. I think it's about the thing where the company wants you to be more use to them than they are to you.
On the plus side, I have learnings.
On the minus side, I'm unemployed and dateless, so what the heck do I know?
... I shouldn't watch this stuff. Watching SF is much less depressing.
Then watched a documentary on BBC Three about autism. 3 autistic blokes. 15, 23, and... I don't remember, early 20s also. There was one autistic girl turned up as one bloke's date. And it was just all cringing awkwardness. Everyone looked a bit bad, the mothers, the guys, the council worker who tried to get someone a job. Get an autistic bloke into social care work? Yes, because making cups of tea in other people's houses is just what a guy with a fix on history wants to be doing! And, okay, it's not like there's the jobs to go around, hence lots of scary economy words, so I'm not really criticising, it's just I get those letters too, and there's this undertone of 'maybe they can all look after each other!' that gets on my nerves.
Also, I so wanted to send the guys advice. They did not seem aware of the way things have process and stages. You want to date someone? Okay, first you find a someone. Then you see if they want to go do some thing you are both interested in. This is in case you're not interested in each other, then you've still got something interesting. Also, if you can't find a thing you're both interested in, it's not going to work. After that you go do something else and something else and something else, and swap stories, and find out what priorities and values you share. And progress from there. What an autistic bloke does? Decides he wants to find someone to spend the rest of his life with. On first email contact, asks her if she wants to share his life, and on first face to face contact, asks her to be his friend forever. Yes, it's the goal, but it totally lacks process, and is kinda creepy scary because clearly they are in one story and whatever girl arrives to fit is not their main focus and if the girl has another story... well.
Job hunting has similar problems. Process. Stages. But I actually know even less about this than about dating. Fanfic rarely involves job hunting. I do know that turning up somewhere and begging for a job doesn't tend to work. For some reason people are most likely to be offered jobs if they give the impression they don't need them. I think it's about the thing where the company wants you to be more use to them than they are to you.
On the plus side, I have learnings.
On the minus side, I'm unemployed and dateless, so what the heck do I know?
... I shouldn't watch this stuff. Watching SF is much less depressing.