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beccaelizabethI saw another meme about how love triangles dont work because polyamory
and totally agree, date both, both is good
but
if the only choice being made is between two people
it is already not the most interesting triangle.
The example that springs to mind is a PI with two love interests, one a cop, one a vampire.
That's two different lifestyles and alignments
That's thesis and antithesis.
The solution is some kind of synthesis, if I'm going to stay interested
or going all the way over to one side, and then I get bored.
And like, synthesis can make an interesting poly relationship? They will still have Lawful Good on one side and Chaotic Possibly Good Possibly Neutral on the other, and they will still have the person in the middle trying to figure out what is Good and what is simply Lawful, and whether they personally choose to be Good right now, or if Neutral will do for today. Even if they remain romantically involved as a threesome, they haven't collapsed the underlying tension. There's still story there and always will be.
But sometimes all of them go full masquerade, or one goes vampire and one quits being a cop and then it's a two vampire and a PI relationship, or... you know, the whole alignment of the triad gets pulled to one specific corner.
Or the vampire becomes entirely Good? Like, I've only seen Chaotic Neutral but Really Trying, but like, in theory he could have made it to Chaotic Good?
Actually I've not watched Forever Knight recenly enough, is that a Lawful Good vampire?
... have I watched those this decade?
ANYway, my example is flawed because vampires can have multiple alignments.
But it could be other issues that are in tension between them. Being boss or employees or clients, for instance, different sets of choices and power relations. Dating civilians or masks, maybe. Those need unpacking, what they stand for and what the contradictions are.
If the people supposed to be chosen between are very similar then they can just all click their lives together and you are left wondering why they dont. But also I am left wondering why I read it. Like the endless iterations of the romance where the only thing stopping them being together is they dont communicate. I am not getting much of the good stuff out of the yearning having cycle when they're only stuck yearning because not asking.
But lots of 'love triangles' are actually choices between two different and often opposing lifestyles with different values and ideas of what the good life is.
Even the Hallmark city vs country divide I have read about on tumblr isnt simple to collapse into 'just date both'. Which lifestyle do they pursue together, what work life balance do they agree to, where do they have Christmas?
Date Both is only the answer if those things can resolve, otherwise it's a work in progress.
and totally agree, date both, both is good
but
if the only choice being made is between two people
it is already not the most interesting triangle.
The example that springs to mind is a PI with two love interests, one a cop, one a vampire.
That's two different lifestyles and alignments
That's thesis and antithesis.
The solution is some kind of synthesis, if I'm going to stay interested
or going all the way over to one side, and then I get bored.
And like, synthesis can make an interesting poly relationship? They will still have Lawful Good on one side and Chaotic Possibly Good Possibly Neutral on the other, and they will still have the person in the middle trying to figure out what is Good and what is simply Lawful, and whether they personally choose to be Good right now, or if Neutral will do for today. Even if they remain romantically involved as a threesome, they haven't collapsed the underlying tension. There's still story there and always will be.
But sometimes all of them go full masquerade, or one goes vampire and one quits being a cop and then it's a two vampire and a PI relationship, or... you know, the whole alignment of the triad gets pulled to one specific corner.
Or the vampire becomes entirely Good? Like, I've only seen Chaotic Neutral but Really Trying, but like, in theory he could have made it to Chaotic Good?
Actually I've not watched Forever Knight recenly enough, is that a Lawful Good vampire?
... have I watched those this decade?
ANYway, my example is flawed because vampires can have multiple alignments.
But it could be other issues that are in tension between them. Being boss or employees or clients, for instance, different sets of choices and power relations. Dating civilians or masks, maybe. Those need unpacking, what they stand for and what the contradictions are.
If the people supposed to be chosen between are very similar then they can just all click their lives together and you are left wondering why they dont. But also I am left wondering why I read it. Like the endless iterations of the romance where the only thing stopping them being together is they dont communicate. I am not getting much of the good stuff out of the yearning having cycle when they're only stuck yearning because not asking.
But lots of 'love triangles' are actually choices between two different and often opposing lifestyles with different values and ideas of what the good life is.
Even the Hallmark city vs country divide I have read about on tumblr isnt simple to collapse into 'just date both'. Which lifestyle do they pursue together, what work life balance do they agree to, where do they have Christmas?
Date Both is only the answer if those things can resolve, otherwise it's a work in progress.